Funerals serve as not only a tribute to the life of the deceased but they offer a chance to accept and process this death and act as the beginning of the healing journey. Still, with so many benefits, if you have been invited to one, you still may feel nervous about attending. For most people, this nervousness comes from the fact that they don’t really know what to expect (or what is expected of them). Directors of funeral homes in Boonville, CA. share what you need to know so that you can feel much more comfortable as a guest. 

When You First Arrive 

Arriving on time is important. You want to make sue to give yourself plenty of time to arrive, find a parking spot, sit down and get settled before the service begins. Usually aiming to arrive about 15 minutes early will allow you enough time. 

If you do happen to arrive late for whatever reason, do your very best to quietly enter the room and take a seat that is close. You do not want to disrupt the service. 

What to Wear 

While black is always a good choice of color for your outfit, it doesn’t have to be the only color. However, you do want to keep with darker, more solemn colors. A few other options you could choose from are deep purples, olive, brown, tones of gray and other natural tones. 

As far as the style of attire, most funerals are dressy meaning you should dress as if you are attending a nice church service on a Sunday morning. Women could wear a dress, a top and skirt, or a nice pant suit. Men should wear slacks and a dress shirt, tie, belt, and nice shoes. They could also wear a full suit. 

Where to Sit 

It is always awkward walking into a space and not knowing where your place should be. This is no different with a funeral. Walking in and not knowing where you should sit can cause you to feel anxious. Just take a deep breath and remember these tips: 

• If you see people you know and they invite you to join them, feel free to do so. 
  
• If you do not see anyone you know, simply take a seat anywhere except the first couple of front rows as these are reserved for the family 
  
• Typically the right side of the room is for family and the left side is for friends and acquaintances. But don’t worry if you forget this as nobody is going to even notice. 

After the Service 

Once the service ends, you may hear the officiant announce details for the graveside service and invite all of the guests to attend. If possible, try and attend. If you simply cannot make it, that is okay. 

If you do not hear any announcement then most likely the graveside service is for family or by invite only. Respect the family wishes and do not go to the ceremony.

Final Thoughts 

While it can be intimidating to attend your first funeral, know that the benefits it can provide outweigh any nervous feelings you are experiencing. Knowing a little of what to expect can help ease these anxious feelings. 

If you would like more information or funerals or other services provided by funeral homes in Boonville, CA, feel free to reach out to us anytime as we welcome the opportunity to assist you in any way we can.